First, last, and in the middle

But make sure in your hearts that Christ is Lord. Always be ready to give an answer to anyone who asks you about the hope you have. Be ready to give the reason for it. But do it gently and with respectI Pet. 3:15

The first and last sentences are often overshadowed by what’s in the middle. Defending a position, winning an argument or slam-dunking an opponent do not reflect gentleness, respect, or the love of Christ. Besides that, too much breath is spent arguing about topics that do not pertain to the thing we are supposed to be explaining.

Lord, in disagreements, help me remember what matters most.